Suggestions and request from people can appear at any time and in any form. In fact, It’s always easier to say yes than to say no. Emotions much influence your decisions. You want to preserve the existing relationship, minimize the possibility of conflict ? Are you afraid that refusal may cause unnecessary problems in this relationship ? Do you think pleasing everyone in any cases is the right thing to do ? But that is not possible or necessary.

When you want to please everyone, you won’t please anyone, including yourself. You bite off more than one can chew, but high possibility is nothing will work out in the end. Your time will quickly run out, even taking over your personal life.

In many cases, a well – timed refusal is essential, and it’s easier to accept than ultimately receiving an apology for not being able to complete it.

You can’t get over the guilt. When you refuse others, you feel you are the one to blame, even feel that you “ debt” them. With close relationships such as family, lovers, and close friends, this guilt is even greater.

Remember, you are just saying no to the request, not the person making the request, so you don’t need to feel too burdened in that case.